One of the healthiest thoughts we can have is the understanding that we are part of something bigger than ourselves. This is why we value our families, communities, churches and teams. When we join with others, we realize that the collective whole is greater than the individual.
This is also true in the marital relationship, where two people join together to create a powerful force. When spouses live for self-gratification, however, the force becomes a negative and divisive one. Dissatisfaction results. In a healthy marriage, the opposite is true. Each individual is valued, and a powerful phenomenon occurs. I call it “the big O.”
“The big O” is not ourselves, and it’s certainly not Oprah. It’s not Oreos…or any other “O” you may have on your mind. The big O is oneness. Oneness is the quality of being unified and unique. In a healthy marriage, spouses live to make much of each other. The way they relate creates a bond of oneness, whether expressing with their bodies what words cannot through physical intimacy, or sharing a glass of milk and a pile of Oreos.
Oneness is obtained through mutual surrender, humility, respect, purpose, friendship and love. In these challenging times, one of the greatest strengths a couple can share is the power of the big O.
Teri Cress is a marriage and family therapist with a specialization in Christian sex therapy. She practices at Restored Hearts Counseling, a Christian counseling practice located at 2655 Dallas Hwy, suite 310, in Marietta, where she works with couples, individuals and families. Teri and her husband of 27 years enjoy the challenges of fostering oneness while raising four children! Please feel free to call Teri at 404-511-5265, or e-mail her at teri@restoredheartscounseling.com. Visit www.restoredheartscounseling.com for more information.
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Thank you so much for having Teri’s insight on your website! She is an amazing resource of inspiration and strength! A truly amazing woman! I highly recommend her for anyone searching for greater oneness in their marriage! And, really, with kids, work, home, friends and all the other things us ladies commit ourselves to, greater oneness with our spouse can always be improved!
) Thanks, Elizabeth, for having her on your website and in your mag!